Preparing a mixed race child for the tough world!


“Penny has a weird African name!”

I can still hear that phrase ringing in my ears. It was said over a phone call to someone else while I sat there and while I quickly interjected , in that moment, I knew I faced a daunting challenge.

Penny and I often found ourselves surrounded by comments that dehumanized immigrants. I often received backhanded compliments, like, “You have a great lean body, unlike others with those typical big African behinds!” Or sometimes they would say, “Penny doesn’t even look African.”

The truth is, people deny their racial biases because admitting to them is uncomfortable. This leaves little room for growth or unlearning.

Such experiences have made me acutely aware of the world around us. While Penny is too young to fully grasp the impact of these statements, I know that a day will come when I can no longer shield her. The last thing I want is for her to associate her African heritage with anything less than the pride I hold for it. Can you imagine my daughter being ashamed of her roots because of the thoughtless words of a heartless individual?

So, how am I preparing her for these inevitable challenges?

HOW PENNY HELPED ME SURVIVE SEPARATION

Confidence Starts at Home

First and foremost, I strive to be a positive mirror for Penny. My confidence is crucial as it will rub off on her, instilling in her a deep sense of worth. I want her to stand tall and never doubt her right to take up space in this world.

Financial Stability

I recently read that immigrant children in Sweden often face significant disadvantages compared to their native peers. My goal is simple: I want to ensure that Penny never feels limited by financial constraints. She should have every opportunity to participate in all the activities she desires when the time comes.

Self-Defense Classes

As soon as she turns four, Penny will join self-defense classes. I believe that a strong voice, along with self-belief and physical strength, is a formidable combination that bullies will think twice about challenging.

Exposure to Other Cultures

Cultural exposure will be vital in helping her understand that all humans are equal, regardless of their backgrounds. I want her to appreciate diversity, ensuring that no one has the power to diminish her self-worth.

Standing My Ground

Whenever I have the chance, I will be firm about the kinds of conversations that take place around her. Mixed-race children often grapple with complex identity issues, and I refuse to let external negativity pile on top of what they might already question internally.

In nurturing Penny, I’m not only helping her build resilience for the challenges she may face, but I’m also fostering a sense of pride and identity that is uniquely hers.

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